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Sunday, March 21, 2010

12.5 WEEKS

We had the appointment for our Nuchal Translucency ultrasound on Monday morning.  The ultrasound tech said that we had apparently ‘brought a jumping bean’ with us, as Jellybean was moving and grooving all over the place.  It took a few minutes for the ultrasound tech to get Bean still enough to measure the nuchal fold - it was kind of funny, and somewhat comforting.

Everything looked good on the ultrasound, so we are just waiting to see what the bloodwork says regarding the probability of Jellybean having Down Syndrome.  It took just over a week for them to call me with Gracie’s 'concerning' results, so I anticipate hearing by the end of the week if there are any ‘problems’ indicated for Jellybean.  If we don’t hear anything by the end of the week, I will assume that things look okay, and then just about it during our next midwife appointment on April 5th

I knew that this pregnancy, in many ways, would be the same as my pregnancy with Gracie – but I also know that it would be much different.  So far the similarities are all there.  Physically, things have more or less been the same so far.  I am anxious to feel Jellybean move the way I was anxious to feel Gracie move.  I am anxious to be able to hear Jellybean's heartbeat with my stethoscope the way I listened to Gracie's.  I am anxious to find out if Jellybean is a boy or a girl the same was I was anxious with Gracie.  I am anxious for my husband to sit down and seriously discuss names with me.  And last, but not least, I want everything that I cannot and/or should not have...a big fat margarita, hot dogs - I only crave hot dogs when I am pregnant, and bacon...lots and lots of bacon.  (During college one of my roommates and I at quite a bit of Domino's pizza with ham and bacon - I haven't had it since college because the closest Domino's doesn't deliver here and I am too lazy to go and get it.  A new Domino's opened a few weeks ago that will deliver to where I live, and now I can't have the bacon...it's killing me.)  

That is where most of the similarities end.  Most days I am fearful of losing this pregnancy - for no reason other than the obvious.  Death, in general, has me a little spooked...again, for no specific reason.  And people....it’s amazing how different people are reacting to this pregnancy.  I am not allowed to lift a finger at the firehouse.  Yesterday I got 'yelled at' for carrying a regular household propane tank (the kind for a gas grill) about 40'.  Everyone there basically has me on a 10 pound lifting restriction.  And, as always, I am amazed by the stupid things that people manage to say.  Within the last couple of weeks, I have heard the following…

  • ‘You’ll be able to move on a little bit once this baby comes.’  
  • ‘Now you know that this baby won’t be able to replace your other baby, right?  Just like you can’t replace a dead dog with a new dog, you can’t replace that other baby.’  

    And my personal favorite… 
  • ‘Just think – if you have two babies in there, you’ll be all caught up.’ 
I totally get that most of the time these people really are just trying to say something nice, but I just wish they wouldn’t try.  I wish they would think about the way things sound once they are out and perhaps rethink what it is that they really want to say.  I think that I am aware, more than anyone else (with the exception of my husband) how much this baby will not be Gracie or replace Gracie.  I know that this baby will both fill a void and bring some added emotional pain, especially in the first few weeks and months.

Overall, things are uneventful and well.  We have two more weeks until our next midwife appointment, so unless something overly exciting happens, Jellybean's blog will likely be quiet.  Thanks for checking in! 


Megan said...

hey. I'm happy to hear things are going well so far and are uneventful. I can't believe the things people vomit out of their mouth and think are appropriate. I'm sorry they are saying things like that because i know it's irritating and must hurt each time. *hugs*

Maggie said...

I'm glad to hear things are going well! People are amazing with what they come up with to say, huh? I really wish people would just shut up or at least think before they speak. Sorry you have to deal with those annoying comments, if you could lift more than 10 lbs., I'd say smash them over the head with whatever! :) (((HUGS)))

Anonymous said...

Some people really just need to think before they speak and sometimes that is just asking too much. Argh!!

On a happy note, uneventful is always good. So glad to hear all is well. If you are quiet, we understand. No news is good news :)

Debbie said...

Are you kidding me? Someone really said that to you about having two babies and catching up? How did you not smack them?